This is an introductory workshop to BDSM from the inside

My relationship with BDSM goes back to the beginning of my sexual life without knowing it.

No, I had no idea that there were objects that were related to that practice or that, adopt one role or anotherI was identifying with a submissive or a dominant (or, in my case, being able to do both, a switch).

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It was something I learned a few days ago after the workshop on Introduction to BDSM taught by the Sex Academy trainer Irene Negri (@sexeducando on Instagram), in one of the Amantis stores (@amantisoficial).

Like the psychologist and sexologist, I came to BDSM by chance. And, when I discovered that I liked it, I thought that they were not normal and something strange could be happening to me.

How was it possible that he could enjoy physical pain at what is supposed to be the most pleasurable time for the body? I had crossed a wire.

Worse not, Irene herself commented that the two faces of BDSM They make a lot of sense from a biological point of view. “All of us feel pleasure in harming, only this game is played with rules”, he commented in the workshop.

As for my pleasure in this type of ‘torture’, the expert explained that both pain and pleasure are produced from the limbic system. Neurons release dopamine when any of these moments occurs, so putting both together increases pleasure.

Perhaps the main difference between what I was doing and a more ‘professional’ way of executing it, is the assignment of roles, which is something as simple as imagine what you would like to do or have someone do to you.

In this distribution of power -always patterned- there is an inequality, which is what produces the morbidity of dynamics First of all.

What Irene assures us is that «BDSM does not have to correspond to the real world. We are not going to hit people with the whip down the street.”

It is just as important to find a person with similar desires or needs, trust that person and also know your own limits. How far are we able to go?.

The main thing is the securitydo things with sanity and inside the session environment.

The consensus of the agreement it doesn’t have to be a folio with each practice perfectly described and detailed (although if you prefer, you can do it this way, especially if it is your first time with someone).

Whether on paper or through conversation, both parties agree to comply with the agreement.

And speaking of agreements, the safe word is one of the first things that we associate with BDSM, but, as Irene explains, it is still better. consider the indications as a traffic light.

Green if we are doing well, yellow if we have to be careful or red if we want to stop the practice immediately.

Although after the workshop he taught us a toy collection ranging from a gag to a collar with a ring to immobilize, through a candle or whips (floggers), it is not essential to have them at home.

“BDSM involves using creativity. You may or may not have an arsenal of toys,” reflected Irene.

Any belt, the sleep mask or the wooden kitchen spoon They can be, with a little imagination, great allies.

Beyond the pain, the pleasure, the toys or the roles, the conclusion I am left with from the workshop is that BDSM is not only about «giving yourself knowing that someone will hold you«.

It also “involves self-care and take care of the person you are withIrene summed up.

Mara Mariño.

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This is an introductory workshop to BDSM from the inside


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