Pain on penetration, what to do? – Vibrations Blog

The main symptoms of dyspareunia are pain, burning and itching during penetration.

The dyspareunia It is the pain, burning or itching during vaginal penetration – either as a sexual practice or part of intimate hygiene when inserting a menstrual cup. There are times when the pain persists even hours after penetration. It is something quite uncomfortable, painful and often affects our self-concept and self-esteem. However, why and what can be done when suffering from dyspareunia?

Symptoms of dyspareunia

The main symptoms of dyspareunia are pain, burning and itching during penetration. This phenomenon can be during intercourse (or penetrative sex), the use of menstrual sanitary products such as tampons or menstrual cups, and so on. The pain or burning can be punctual in the moment or last hours after having gone through the penetration.

❗️KEY DATA: The main symptoms of dyspareunia are pain, burning and itching during and after penetration.

Causes of dyspareunia

It is important to note that dyspareunia is a multifactorial phenomenon – that is, there can be many factors that cause discomfort. Among them are mainly:

Physical factors

  • Discordance in the genitals. In other words, accepting that the genitals – penis and vagina – do not match at the time of penetration. It may be that the penis is thicker or longer than the vaginal capacity to expand at that time.
  • Absence of lubrication. When the vagina is not properly lubricated, any object that is inserted into it will cause pain, burning or itching. And even this discomfort can last for hours.
  • Pelvic floor affections. Many times, the pelvic floor is hypotonic (weakened) or hypertonic (contractured), causing pain when something is inserted into the vagina. Find out more about what is hypotonia and hypertonia of the pelvic floor. ****
  • Have been through surgery in the pelvic area which may be in the process of recovery or had a poor recovery, affecting the stability of the pelvic floor. This can include a cesarean section, childbirth, or abdominal surgery.
  • It has a infection, inflammation, or a disorder of the vulva or vagina. It can also be due to a urinary infection.
  • Vaginismus It is a sexual disorder where the vaginal muscles have involuntary spasms that close the canal, making the passage of any object in the vagina difficult and painful.
  • Some Medical treatments for cancers, such as radiation and chemotherapy.

Psychological and emotional factors

  • Go through moments of stress, anxiety, depression, or some emotional distress. In fact, high doses of stress over a long period can alter sexuality in terms of desire, lubrication, and disorders such as vaginismus and dyspareunia.
  • Some traumatic event such as a sexual abuse.
  • Zero erotic-festive motivation in sexual practice, focusing all attention on intercourse or penetrative sexual practice.

Social factors

  • Series of oppressions –Such as gordofobia, social class, race or any phobia related to sexual identity or orientation– that influence the presence of daily stress and discomfort.
  • Sex education based on guilt or shame.
  • The bond with the sexual or sex-affective partner is found in moments of stress, upset, or upset due to arguments, abuse or violence.
  • The moment or physical space of sexual practice is extremely uncomfortable or dangerous.

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What to do if I have dyspareunia?

The pain of penetration is multifactorial, so it is important to consider each of these aspects – especially if it is a physical aspect. In fact, if you have a physical or physiological history, we recommend you attend with a sexologist or physical therapist specializing in pelvic floor disorders. If, on the other hand, it is a more emotional or psychological aspect, it is highly recommended to visit a psychologist specialized in psychological trauma with a gender perspective.

On the other hand, there are some options that can help you enjoy a pain-free full sexuality:

  • Lubricant. Lots of water-based lubricant.
  • Listen or try not to focus everything on penetration, but on the stimulation of the genitals and the skin without the need to penetrate the vagina. Ideas: oral sex, caresses, kisses, scratches on the back, spanking, etc.
  • Discover what you like through self-eroticization or masturbation.
  • Communication with the sexual partner (casual sex) or affective sex (stable partner) about what and what does not like in sex.
  • Take a break when pain or discomfort is significant, take a break, and encourage other practices after-care -Like caresses, kisses, hugs and even preparing a little piece to be snuggled.

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Visiting specialists in mental and emotional health, as well as specialists in pelvic health can help to treat dyspareunia and regain sexual life.

Author of the note: @mj.castaneda.aguirre

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