Loyalty and partner. Something natural?

Why does an infidelity occur? Is it natural to be with one person forever for the rest of your life and be happy that way? Are we designed for monogamy? Are there faithful people or is it an illusion that we wish to maintain? Can infidelity be forgiven?

Loyalty and partnership, two concepts and two realities that should combine perfectly but that, on occasions, break down and fail. Today we are going to talk about “fidelity and partner” and answer the question of whether it is something natural or, as the statistics seem to indicate, something impossible or very difficult to achieve. If you are interested in this topic, I invite you to continue reading …

Loyalty and partner, what is natural?

There are very few things or aspects of the human being that we can consider natural. By nature we are social beings and practically everything is cultural and learned: from the way we understand ourselves as women and as men, the models of couples that change with time and fashions or the same concept of couples and fidelity in the same.

The natural thing, without a doubt, is that people need to create and maintain stable bonds and long-term relationships to feel good. In this way, we meet our basic need for emotional security. Family, partner and friends make up our affective network that contribute to our identity and psychological stability.

This affective support network is made up of those significant people with whom we deeply bond. And there are two types of people: those we do not choose, who are with whom we maintain a blood bond (mothers, fathers, sons and daughters, cousins ​​…). And people with no direct link who they are the ones we freely choose and that satisfy other psycho-emotional needs. It’s about friendships and relationships.

The couple means for most people a very special bond, central in their life, someone in whom they can fully trust and with whom to build a life project together.

Loyalty and brain, how does it work?

The human brain has two characteristics that must be understood and used to our advantage. On the one hand, it tends to be conservative and stay with what it gives us well-being, tranquility and security. A relationship should basically be something that meets these three characteristics.

On the other hand, the brain needs a dose of novelty, something different that takes us out of the routine and allows us to grow. One of the main challenges couples face is achieving that balance between stability and renewal. It is a key to success in enjoying a healthy partner that also grows and changes over time.

It is very important to remember that the couple is made up of two people who are in different processes of change. It is necessary to continually synchronize if we want a respectful, equal and healthy relationship. In the same way, every couple goes through phases of growth and crisis where new needs appear that must be attended to. It is like computer updates that allow a program to develop and continue to function.

People are social beings and we need to create and maintain stable bonds and long-term relationships to feel good.n

It is also true that we live in a culture that idealizes the couple as the perfect way of being in the world. The partner or the state “in couple” it has become overly idealized without providing us with coherent models or communication skills to support it and help us deal with conflict. We lack a positive affective education that facilitates healthy living with a partner. That remains a challenge and a pending issue for people of all ages.

Loyalty and partner, start with yourself

The couple is made up of two people who are emotionally committed and who want to build their lives together. Based on this premise, there are as many ways of living as a couple as there are people who form them.

The important thing is to stop and ask yourself what I want and how I want it. As soon as we answer this question we can be faithful to oneself or oneself as a preliminary step to finding someone with whom to establish sincere and coherent affective bonds. And if things change or we do not want the same, out of loyalty, we should talk about it and communicate it so as not to harm ourselves.

There are also people who do not want to be or live as a couple or who do not believe in it because of their life experience. And that they feel happy like that. Speaking people understand each other and it is a good idea not to assume that this person that I am beginning to like or I’m falling in love wants or seeks the same as me in a relationship.

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We must continually synchronize if we want a respectful, egalitarian and healthy relationship.

We do things well when we start by being honest talking and agreeing on the bases of the relationship. And if there is a coincidence, then it remains to fulfill them. Loyalty has a loyalty part that involves communication and dialogue. And it has a part of commitment and agreement to face the problems together.

In many cases, a sexual infidelity occurs when sex goes wrong in the couple or we enter into inattention or lack of love. It is very clumsy to look outside what does not satisfy you inside before looking help in sexology that can effectively help you to solve sexual dysfunctions or blocks of sexual intimacy (dissatisfaction or imbalances in desire).

It is not true that men are more unfaithful than women. And if we talk about sex, it is not true that men have a greater sexual need than they do. And much less that this can justify an infidelity as a couple. It is true that for centuries we have received a sexist education that granted men so-called privileges such as having a partner and allowing themselves “adventures” outside of it. To this many women have also joined today from a misunderstood equality between the sexes.

Definitely 1) Fidelity begins with each person knowing what they want and what they don’t. 2) Being in a couple is a pact that is based on an agreement of shared limits and needs. 3) Please let us be consistent with what we want and agree on. And 4) if things change, there is communication and dialogue to avoid damaging and being harmed.

In conclusion, we are faithful because we freely decide so. And unfaithful by incongruity. When a person is unfaithful, he is failing himself, in the first place, because he has broken the pact, deal or word that he had given to another. And that, I think, is not right and I should make you look at it.

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