Incest: what if things finally move? • My sex blog

With the Duhamel affair and the publication of the book The Big Family by Camille Kouchner, incest has become a central topic in the media in recent days.
The key word #metooinceste seems to help free the voice of victims on social networks.
After a long silence, can we finally hope that this question will be taken into account at its true height?

A seriously overestimated phenomenon: when 10% of French people suffer from the consequences of incest

In 1986, in the Files of the Screen, Eve Thomas broke the taboo by testifying to the incest that she experienced, with her face uncovered *. By speaking, she breaks out of the silence that covers incest – hers, but generally this subject in society.

35 years later, there are still no truly structured prevention and victim care systems, and above all, no systematic screening, even though it is a dual issue of child protection. and public health.

The first cause of early death is to have suffered sexual violence in childhood. The first cause of suicide is having suffered sexual violence in childhood.

Muriel Salmona, psychiatrist specializing in the trauma of incest

Studies estimate the number of people who have suffered incest in their childhood between 5 and 10%. That is to say that probably, 2 to 3 children in each class of each school are or have been the victim of incest.

* see the extract from Special Envoy dedicated to the testimony of Eve Thomas concerning incest, and the answers which now seem incredible to us provided by the switchboard and by a gynecologist on the set.

Incest, a psychotrauma with extremely serious consequences

While child abuse in general, and sexual violence as well, leaves deep wounds, sexual abuse by a parent or family member (i.e. incest) is associated with particularly heavy psychological symptoms for those who have suffered it.
The repercussions affect all areas of the victims’ lives even as adults: depression, low self-esteem or even self-loathing, interpersonal difficulties and feelings of helplessness., to name just a few of the common symptoms. They naturally also colonize the intimate and sexual areas.
One of the strong consequences of the trauma of incest is in particular traumatic association, in which victims incorporate the aberrant ideas of their attackers about the incestuous relationship.
They will thus be able to associate the abuse with a form of love or affection – and will be led to try to reproduce this association in their adult relationships *.

Generally speaking, exposure to sexual violence in childhood is an essential determinant of the mental and physical health of adults.
WHO considers this problem to be crucial in prevention plans.

” According to [une] ACE study, having suffered several forms of violence in childhood thus constitutes, according to the authors the leading cause of early mortality and morbidity in adulthood. It is also the main determinant of health 50 years after violence and this can lead to the loss of up to 20 years of life expectancy, ”writes Muriel Salmmona.

As a sex therapist, we will obviously have to hear this word, this suffering, and to be able to suggest therapeutic avenues or advise specialist therapists.

* More information on psychotrauma:
The traumas of children victims of violence, a major public health problem, Muriel Salmona
Understanding and Treating Incest Survivors, Revis Herald

Links and resource

Or maybe one night… – a podcast by Charlotte Pudlowski
This series of 6 one-hour podcasts + a round table is probably the clearest work I have seen regarding incest.
Charlotte Pudlowski’s work combines her personal history with the research of specialists such as Muriel Salmona for trauma or Dorothé Dussy for more political analysis.

Incest: the silence of the victims
Cross interview with Charlotte Pudlowski and Muriel Salmona, 6:04
(FranceInfo Television)

Incest: Muriel Salmona denounces appalling impunity
(France Culture, 01/06/2021)

“It’s a secret between us”: when adults silence victims of incest (FranceInfoTv)

Books on incest and sexual violence

The black book of sexual violence
STOP booklet to sexual violence against children

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