“I will not let a piece of cloth define me”

Las Tunas.- The first thing he let out was his hair, red and on fire as a warning that now he is going with a firm step, without looking too far to the sides, or for those who question his outfits and they may even envy you on the low. Later he incorporated the turbans and other attire, everything that brought out from within that desire to express himself as he is. Heels appeared later.

The beard remained intact in its place. On the other side of the mirror she likes what it brings to her face. The hair on the arms and legs also decorates the person that Eduardo Gadir Escalona Pérez is, and that it took him a long time to accept. Too. But today it is finally known “gay, although with some queertrans, in short, a bit of everything.
cherry blossomDelonix Regia is the character brought to life by Gadir in the “El Cerezo” space of the Huellas Cultural Center. “Me outfit was born in El Cerezo -place where he works, space of the Huellas cultural center- as a protest as a way of happening, performance variant, and there my character Delonix Regia was born, which is the scientific name of the framboyán. As I am an amateur actor in the group Evilias, directed by Yunior Fernández, it was easy to take him on stage and it helped me to speak out against labels, against everything that kept me incomplete, because we cannot allow a piece of cloth to define us”.
He tells us that his personality is a mixture of several traits that he found in other beings that he has been able to meet at 26 years of age. It was in the theater that he understood that his way of life is not an imitation. That he is amalgamation, fan, piece and everything, at the same time. In that art the most genuine side of him sprouted, he let go of the pieces of prejudice and fear that he carried without knowing it, like cops inside his own head.
“Until almost two years ago I lived in conflict with myself, I had a feminine and a masculine part, every day I asked myself who I was or rather, what I was.
“Before I did not know how to live with my extravagance, it bothered me a lot that others looked at me with superiority, I felt their rejection and the explanation I gave myself was that society was not ready for such a thing, until one day I told the society from within that I was like that and there was no reason to hide it.
Twenty-four months ago, while most Cubans began to cover their faces as a result of Covid-19, Gadir explored deep within himself, with the certainty that the right moment had come to discover himself and free himself from the ties that, he himself, he had placed and each time they prevented him with more force from recognizing himself on the other side of the mirror. Today he is satisfied with his decisions.
SUPPORTS FOR DIVERSITY
The outlines of the new Family Code came to Gadir’s life, as to that of so many people from Las Tunas, far from the horizons where heteronorm prevails. That caused, in his case, a hint of relief, and not only for him, “but for the number of people who are out there hiding, frustrated, because social pressure does not allow them to show themselves as they are.
“I maintain that as long as you don’t attack, harm or affect someone directly, you can be whoever you want and look how you want; personality goes far beyond appearances and that should be a right of every human being, to have the guarantee that he will be respected. Legal support is important and it is not assumed that the only thing that matters to the LGBTIQ+ community is achieving acceptance of same-sex marriage, it is not true, many of us do not even think about it.
“Although we are honest, same-sex marriage is a reality in Cuba today. At this time there are people of the same sex living together as couples for many years, so it is logical that it be legitimized, because it is almost incredible that at the time of separation or the death of one of the parties, what they built together is not taken into account. .
“This Code opens many doors for us, makes our existence easier and is similar to the reality of the country, I agree with same-sex marriage, adoption, with everything that is for the benefit of those of us who have not had rights before.”
INCLUSIVE LOOKS
Not only Gadir expects guarantees to fully carry out his life project. By the way, the current Cuban Day against Homophobia and Transphobia continues to uphold the motto “All rights for all people”, a precept that is totally in tune with the proposal of the Family Code.
Elia Marina Brito Hidalgo, official of the educational component of the Maternal and Child Program in the province, Master in Psychology and clinical sexologist, shares with 26 their satisfaction because this legislation sheds light on issues that were previously reflected in a very superficial way or were simply not stated.Elia Marina BritoElia Marina Brito.
“What is proposed guarantees the rights for those who have gender identities different from the regulations and, connected to this, proposes that comprehensive sexuality education be promoted from an early age.
“It advocates promoting this knowledge from the family space, school institutions and in a joint way to participate, act, carry out, carry out this teaching from the perspective of respect for diversities and identities, to gender equity.
“When this legal body speaks of non-discrimination, it is an element that includes, without a doubt, all people; It has to do with non-discrimination in any stratum of society to sexual orientations other than heteronormative.
“Another element that we cannot ignore within the Code is the prevention of domestic violence in its different manifestations, the exclusion of the existence of the family, psychological and physical violence, abandonment and neglect due to sexual orientation or due to different characteristics of children. , girls and adolescents, who are labeled from their own sexuality.
“This document goes beyond equal marriage, the possibility of adopting by same-sex couples or non-profit surrogacy, it offers a much more favorable concept for respecting human rights, the sexual rights of all people”, concluded Elia.
HALFWAY ROAD
Despite the campaigns against homophobia and transphobia and the supposed open-mindedness of recent years, there is much ignorance about sexualities, genders and identities.
Studies carried out by the National Center for Sex Education (Cenesex) support the fact that myths, stereotypes and prejudices, historically promoted by religions, have stipulated that a “normal” family is made up of a man and a woman (nuclear family) . But in everyday life the range is even more extensive for heterosexuals: separated parents, single parents, reconstituted, reassembled, surrogate, adopted, extended, extended and others.
Homoparental families exist and mechanisms must be created for their legal integration in all aspects. The possibility of dressing in white in front of the notary, of cradling a child in your arms and having legal support is not too much, it is essential. It is not about giving crumbs and continuing to hide behind double standards. Homosexuality is a fact and family formations emanate from it. Legislation in this regard is not advanced, but consistent with these times, and above all, it is simply a matter of social justice.
“I discovered that when you want them to listen to you, you have to do it seriously, in a big way, let it be noticed, and with legal backing, well, much better, otherwise why bother,” Gadir says with a laugh. That is why I wear these clothes, which I love, and some would dare to say that within the LGBTIQ+ community I am one thing or another, but I do not allow myself to be defined, I hate labels.”

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“I will not let a piece of cloth define me”