How not to get used to a vibrator – Sexual Therapy

The dark side of vibrators

We all know the wonders of sex toys and their great acceptance, especially among the female audience. But every good part has its dark side (the law of duality, yin and yang).

And what is that dark side of toys? Well, the masturbatory pattern or habituation that can cause the continued use of these toys. Vibrators especially (here I include the famous clitoral suckers).

Why? Well, because the stimulus it provokes is so high and so intense that it practically “brings out” the orgasm. This stimulus is also so mechanical, that it prevents recreating in pleasure on many occasions and skips all phases of the sexual response to fully enter orgasm.

This wouldn’t be so bad if the brain weren’t so “lazy” to orgasm. When she is taught a short and very pleasant path, she not only claims it when sexual desire arises, but prevents orgasm from being obtained in any other way. The brain becomes addicted to orgasm and discards any stimulus that is not powerful enough to cause orgasm quickly. The same happens when pornography is consumed exclusively for masturbation.

Is it bad then to use vibrators to masturbate?

Absolutely not. The use of toys is highly recommended and healthy. Their use, or the way they are used, is what can generate this habit and cause discomfort by not being able, when having sex, to have orgasm if the vibrator is not used on duty.

And then, how is habituation generated?

It happens without realizing it. We want to masturbate, we are alone and we do not have time or desire to waste it, our hand bores us and our latest model toy gives us fast and incredible orgasms. Well, we do not think about it and on each occasion, we use it without changing the hand or the stimulus of other objects (rubbing with the pillow, the shower jet, etc …) generating, on the one hand, the addiction that we have already mentioned.

On the other hand, if we do not have a partner, masturbation will not only be more frequent, but the stimulus will already be exclusively through the vibrator, making our brain and our skin forget the sensations that other skin produces and giving it everything the prominence of our pleasure to the toy.

Finally, the direct use on the clitoris (or around it) but without stimulating other areas of the vulva, is the third factor that causes the difficulty of obtaining orgasms in a different way. The habit of a powerful and exclusive stimulus that is impossible to reproduce with the hand or the mouth, plus the insensitivity that is generated in the rest of the vulva by not caressing or stimulating it in masturbation, will only get us excited but never enough to trigger orgasm. Thus arriving the frustration and the hook to our vibrator.

How to use the vibrator without falling into habituation?

Well, to begin with, always massaging the entire vulva and not focus solely on the clitoris. I have discovered a vibrator that, due to its shape and size, is attached to the vulva in such a way that it is not necessary to move from the clitoris to the labia or the entrance to the vagina if you do not want to. You can stimulate everything at once. Or you can use it with lubricant and make it slide and play through each of the folds and corners of your vulva.

I’m talking about the «Better than Chocolate 2«. A smaller vibrator than its predecessor and that adapts to the vulva in a more anatomical way. Spreading the stimulus over the entire vulva “decongests” the clitoris and allows the entire area to be sensitized, giving a sensation of pleasure that is more expanded and not so concentrated and exclusive.

Another advantage of this vibrator is the intensity control of the vibration (like the new earbuds). All you have to do is slide your finger up or down on the button to get the rhythm you need to regulate without getting lost in finding the classic push buttons and getting distracted.

Another thing that we must do with our vibrator so as not to get used to it, is to alternate the stimulus with the hand. Using one and the other interchangeably throughout masturbation will cause the brain to understand that there are other forms of stimulation and with different sensations, strength and pressures, preventing addiction to something intense and immediate. This also includes the versatility of the toy you use, since if it is very specific, it will be more difficult to stimulate other areas with it.

And finally, always extend the arrival of orgasm. It doesn’t matter if you get it by hand or with the toy. The important thing is that it takes place. That when you feel it arrive quickly (when you are using the vibrator) you release it and continue with your hand. This will cause a change in the intensity and speed of the stimulus, but maintaining the excitement and breaking any possible habit.

What toy is right for me then? Can i use any?

Of course. For tastes, colors. The only thing you have to take into account is how to use it. It does not matter a classic vibrator, a clitoral sucker, a massager or any other vibrator that catches your attention or you like.

I have told you about «Better than Chocolate 2»Because I was surprised by its versatility, how it fits and massages the vulva due to its shape, which can stimulate the entrance of the vagina and the clitoris at the same time, as well as the internal and external lips. That allows the game in pairs, its smooth and silky texture and its easy and intuitive handling.

You can also see a video where I show and teach how to place it and masturbate with it in this link to my IGTV: video «BTC2»

Ah, I forgot. In case you are interested, the brand is Nomi Tang. Anyway, I have left you the direct link by clicking on the names. And if you are not convinced, maybe you see another toy that catches your attention. I’ve already had a look at a massage wand (the power Wand), which has to be a delight.

Conclusions.

  1. Do not use vibrators exclusively to masturbate. Alternate both the way you stimulate yourself in the same masturbation and alternating the days of use.
  2. Don’t focus, as tempting as it may be, solely on the clitoris. Covers and stimulates more areas of your vulva and even your body.
  3. Lengthen orgasms. Okay, sometime, in a hurry, you “get” a quick orgasm, but remember that masturbation is self-care, it is autoeroticism and we must feed them.

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