Understanding fetishism …
Fetishism is a sexual and erotic practice that is more common than we think. Although social and cultural mandates still give a negative connotation to this type of practice, the truth is that it does not have to be a rarity or be something harmful. Definitely, it is a different way of enjoying sex.
When we speak of fetishism in psychological terms we refer to a paraphilia, which is related to the fact of experiencing a increased sexual arousal to develop sexual fantasies and achieve orgasm through different objects, body parts, elements or situations concrete.
What types of fetishisms are there?
If we talk about fetishism we must bear in mind that there will always be a “object” fetish. These, in general, can be very varied and different. And of course, they depend on each person.
Even so, there are certain fetishisms that are usually the best known. For example, arousal through: someone else’s underwear, high heels, handcuffs, certain items of clothing, etc. Other examples of sources of arousal that function as a fetish include: Contact with hair or feet, the texture of leather, latex, wearing diapers as if it were a baby, etc.
And on the other hand, as we have already commented above, you can also develop a fetish for certain concrete situations (eg submission, behaving like a child, etc), places (an elevator, an airplane bathroom, etc.), tastes or smells, etc.
Consequently, these objects or situations, depending on how they are interacted with, can become the source of greater sexual pleasure and arousal.
Foot fetishism, one of the most common
The podophilia or foot fetish is one of the most frequent practices within fetishism. Consists of the arousal that causes interaction with the other person’s feet. That is to say: touching, kissing, caressing or licking the feet of the partner or sexual partner. In general, there is a widespread belief that it is a fetish experienced mostly by men, but the truth is that there is no scientific evidence to corroborate this fact. And the reality is that both men and women can be attracted to this fetish sexual regardless of your gender.
More pros than cons
In general, you usually have the false belief what is it something abnormal, out of the ordinary and even harmful. Therefore, those people who practice some form of fetishism usually avoid admitting that they do so. Or even those who are curious about the subject, avoid acknowledging that they would like to try it. Most of the time this happens out of shame, fear of being judged, because of the negative implicit charge that society attributes to this type of practice or because of fear of being considered a strange or perverted person.
On other occasions, talking about the subject is also avoided for fear that the couple do not agree, that you see it as something strange or that the other person feels uncomfortable or intimidated. For all this, sometimes it can be seen as a taboo subject.
However, fetishism is a practice that can have numerous advantages about sexual intercourse. Because it allows experience sex in a different way.
It is a way of living sexuality that can bring many benefits to those who do it.
Putting into practice the generation of pleasure through a fetish is possible -for the person who practices it- get to know each other better, discover a new form of stimulation and in general, enjoy sex more. Likewise, it can help to get out of the routine, to become more intimate with the couple, to generate complicity and erotic games, to discover new tastes, etc.
When can fetishism become a problem?
As we mentioned in the previous point, this sexual practice does not imply anything negative nor does it have to represent a problem. On the contrary, it is a way of living sexuality that can bring many benefits to those who do it.
However, it can become a trouble in extreme cases when the person who practices it depends solely and exclusively of the fetish object to get excited, to have sex or to feel pleasure. That is, when the obtaining of sexual pleasure depends exclusively on the existence and presence of the fetish object.
When this happens, they usually appear feelings found Regarding sexual pleasure, such as: guilt, remorse, frustration, a certain obsession, the need to always have that sexual fetish, etc. And in most cases all this is usually accompanied by a certain deterioration in other areas of the fetishist person’s life (such as areas: social, personal and work). Likewise, it must also be taken into account that it usually affects not only the fetishist person, but also his partner and the relationship.
For this reason, at the moment in which these feelings are detected and it is suspected that a problem may be generating, it is important to go to a professional to redirect these behaviors and that they become sources of pleasure again.
Author: Clinical Team Madrid Institute of Sexology
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